Hey y’all. Haute Spott is 1 year today and we are very delighted to have been part of your lives this past year. It s been a wonderful experience of bringing you the good , the bad and sometimes the ugly stuff. And sometimes even though we ve gotten into some of your bad books, we managed to make that up with some cool news as well.
We must confess the first year has been rough. We ve had to jump hurdles as high as Everest but we intend to stay on track and do just what we enjoy doing. Of course ,nothing would sway us off our course. And just as Diana Ross would sing ” Aint no mountain High Enough”, there aint no mountain High to stop us now.
We know it has been a while now but we are turning on a new page of this book as there’s more news, more celebrity gossip and more fun stuff right on the Hautest (Hottest) place on earth. So before we take off we guess it is time to strap on your seat belt while we take you on this roller coaster ride. Just remember, we always have you on our minds.
Haute Spott Team
I won’t lie to you,when you are a blogger so many things fight for your attention. I won’t even start to bore you with the dynamics of blogging and the things that compete for our attention. I have been planning to write this little piece for a while now. But like I said,lately so many things have been on my mind but this little post. So here I am now, finally finally writing this overdue post. You see the need for writing this post has somehow presented itself in a very unusual way. Why? Because I have been talking to a couple of friends about this new fashion trend which seem to be causing a whole lot of stir in on our red carpets,in our streets, in our homes and even in our churches( tell me I am lying and I will show you the next girl who walks into the church with her boobies peeling out her dress). I am talking about the plunging neckline.First it was the side boob,the underboob, side butt and now a nipple slip away from baring it all. I think I got your attention now, right..Well, it is not really that new a trend. The fashion craze used to be very popular with the celebrities of the 80s and very sought after by women of the time as well. Recently, the trend as even become more en vogue with the likes of celebrities such as Miranda Kerr, Kim K. Kim K’S attempt at the new extreme cleavage garnered plenty of headlines. The reality star made sure we got the full view of her ample, gravity -defying assets in her black Givenchy gown at the Mademoiselle party in Paris. Miranda Kerr on the other walked about all proud in a low cut white dress that left little to the imagination.Even our very own African celebrities like Yvonne Okoro and the latest fashion case on everyone’s lips, Deborah Vanessa decided that they needn’t be left out of the fun. But hey, did I tell you Deborah Vanessa is an old school mate of mine. We both happen to go to the same High School together and finished the same year. Boy, you should see how Sister Derbie is getting the hits on our school year group platform on facebook. But really that is besides the point, right. I mean who cares what a grown ass woman decides to wear or do with her life.
But anyway, I am still worried and I really must share my thoughts with you guys or forever hold my peace on this one. Believe it or not with every single opinion post I write I feel a lot lighter and quite frankly I feel a big weight lifted off my chest. Maybe you guys should try it sometime. Now back to the problem at hand? Well, I won’t dare call it a problem per se but a fashion trend taking over our fronts. Talking about fronts, it is kind of nice when we see our celebrities in those seemily outrageously sexy dresses with those V front neckline revealing “Lord have mercy” half or all of the twin towers. And please we do get the picture, yes! Of course we get lots of it. I will like to speak volumes about this foreign trend in Africa. But let me give you a mental picture or the real picture on this rapidly growing trend, just imagine a world full of women walking around with their assets on display with every asset scrambling to be seen. Boy, what a world it will be. Now before a put take rest I will like to leave with a few comments by fashion experts , hopefully that will shed more lights on the extreme cleavage trend. Celebrity stylist, Claire Wacey gave sage advice to the Daily Mail : ” The new trend to off more cleavage is great provided you have a pert, toned bust, if however your boobs do not defy gravity and require bras of steel to keep them in place do not attempt this trend.
” If attempting then ensure that you only show the curve of the bust, either in the centre or at the top rather than creating a pushed together ” Bum Boob”.
” Look for dresses that will separate and lift the bust so that the look remains classy”.
” Invest in a strong tape…to keep everything in place”. Lisa Potter, Femail Fashion Finder deputy editor, added: “There’s a fine line between sexy and downright tacky so if you want to carry off a dangerous neckline-and stay in favour with the fash pack-then remember to keep everything else low-key and simple. That means long hemlines, adding a sleek cover-up like a blazer and keeping hair and make-up minimal”
Anyway with that said I leave all the judgements to you . .
Geez, that could probably explain why I am still single, Ha! But I am still skeptical about these studies because I think I have quiet a number of girls who get hit on severally on-line. Just last week a friend (black woman) signed on to one of these on-line dating sites and she got a gazillion hits. What exactly could she be doing right as a black woman. And just within that same week a friend confided in me, telling me how she can’ t get herself a man on and off-line. So I ask myself what could these women be doing right or wrong? Maybe these surveys could or could not be right . Now what exactly are these surveys or studies saying, read on to find out, black women why exactly you aint getting the hit.
Via NPR reports:
When it comes to dating the rules aren’t always black and white. And when you add race into the equation things can become even more complicated.
The online dating website “Are You Interested” analyzed over 2.4 million interactions on their site and found that Asian women are more likely to get a message from a man of any race—unless those men are Asian.
AYI also found that white men are pursued the most by women of all races—except black women, who are least likely to get a message from anyone.
“I think it’s very disheartening for African-American women” said Beauty Shop guest and The Root.com contributing editor Demetria Lucas. “It’s always the same result and it’s always about how no one’s reaching out for black women. It can get very depressing for someone who is looking for love.”
What happened to post-racial America?
Via TIME Magazine reports:
Online dating — as well as regular dating — is a very segregated activity, but a new study suggests that it may not take much to break racial and ethnic barriers.
As much as we like to think that America is a postracial society, Americans still prefer to date someone from their race. Studies have shown that this preference is stronger than almost any other when it comes to finding mates, although it’s not entirely clear why.
White folks, both male and female, overwhelmingly made more contact with whites, which is hardly surprising since there are more white people on the site to choose from. White folks were the most likely to seek out people of another race. Minority groups (those who identify themselves on OKCupid as black, Hispanic, Indian or Asian) were much more likely to stay in their own racial lane when in search of mates online.
Only Asian women didn’t fit this trend. They were more likely to contact white guys than other Asian guys, which my Asian girlfriends tell me is because, in part, they’re not fans of the traditional role that girlfriends and wives have played — and continue to play — in many Asian societies. They were more likely to respond to white guys too, but then again, all races were most likely to respond to white guys.
Again Asian women were among the outliers; once contacted by someone from another race, their interracial exchanges went up 238%. For Asian men it was 222%, and for black women it was more than 100%.
Why do you think Black women have such a hard time finding a date online??Your opinions are most valued here.
Growing up, I had always asked myself and sometimes my mom why my woolly hair can hardly be tamed like those white little girls with pigtails I see in the movies. And anytime my mom would pull a comb through my kinks, I would cry or even find a hiding place so I would not have to endure the pain of the teeth of the comb through my kinks. Often than not to appease me, my mom would take me to the hair dresser to relax my course hard- to- manage hair; in Africa this is called the stubborn hair. But soon what was once a full, fluffy healthy black cloud transformed into discolored strands falling lifeless from my head because of too wrong and too frequent application by my hair dresser. So I lost all my crowning glory. And that was when I found my solution: The Hair piece. Today, I am one of many African women who love to wear “hair-that-does-not-belong-to-me”. But, does this justify our craze for hair extensions?
What baffles me is the rate at which African women these days have taken a likening to the Brazilian, Peruvian, Malaysian, Indian hairs. Let not even talk about how expensive these extensions are today. Don’t get me wrong, I am not against it because I myself go in for such hair extensions. I was recently talking to a male friend of mine and he said to me “Edna, You can call me anything you want and feel the highest pity for my girlfriend but then that is what it is…. I will never pay for the cost of weaves, wigs or Brazilian hair of any kind for my woman and I will be extremely proud if my sisters’ boyfriends and husbands do the same. Those things are too damn expensive”.
I remember when all that the average woman had was her natural hair, and attachments were once-in-a-while luxuries. Looking at my mum in her beautiful wedding dress, and the tiara on her full curly hair, I can only ask where those days have gone. Today, it’s almost unthinkable for a bride to walk down the aisle without hair extensions. Make that Brazilian Hair.
Some years ago, a woman would only braid her hair just before Christmas. Wigs were used by the rich and political figures who wanted to look classy. Unfortunately, many at times ended up like Tina Turner on a bad hair day. For our religious sisters who couldn’t stand the thought of using what they called ‘the mermaid spirit’s hair’, wool came in handy.
Sadly, the Beyoncés, Tyra Banks, Gabrielle Unions and even our very own celebrities talk of the Genevieve Nnajis, Yvonne Nelsons, Yvonne Okoros, Nadia Buaris and Jackie Appiahs have done nothing to help the situation. We see these stars at movie premieres, in the movies, at the shopping malls in fact everywhere flaunting their good Brazilian hairs. Now, African women walk the streets of Accra, Lagos and Johannesburg with weaves of all kinds from the Brazilian hair, Malaysian hair, Indian hair, Bohemian hairs and all sort of hairs named by their area of origin. What is even sad is that, all these weaves come from all the aforementioned places except Africa. African women even walk around with weaves ranging from 8, 10, 12, 14,16 to 24 inches or even more in the hot sweltering African sun. Some are installing these hairs just to get that compliment, “Oooh girl, you have some good Brazilian hair there!” You know we all have that friend. Meanwhile, they do not even know the difference between these weaves.
I came across a lady who walked into a salon and wanted a change of hairdo. Mind you, she had on hair extensions as long as the Nile which was probably 2 weeks old and she bought 2 pieces of 24-inch weave-ons. I was a little envious of her since she could afford to buy a new piece every 2 week and I couldn’t. She brought a picture of a celebrity with her hoping that the stylist could give her that same hair look . I expected her to walk out with her pretty long hair. By the time the stylist was done with her, the hair on her head was half the length of what she’d bought. Amazing, she could afford to chop all that Brazilian hair all in the quest to look like some celebrities who could afford more hair weaves than she can.
Unless my little analysis was flawed, I realized that most natural-haired women save good money in hair expenses compared to the frequent patrons of hair weaves, considering the inflated price of the weave, the cost to get it on, and the risk of not liking the outcome, taking it off a week later and putting on another one. I suppose some husbands and boyfriends will be the ones with weeping wallets, because for the big hair spenders, as long as the money keeps flowing they will still keep on buying one Brazilian weave after another.